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How to Make Your Dating Worth It

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I few years back I read in the Metro newspaper that men invest in their looks and wardrobe when there is potential for romance, and that in the UK Scottish men are the highest spenders.

I asked my then boyfriend, who happened to be Scottish, if he thought this was true.

“Are you kidding me? Of course it’s true, I bought two shirts and a pair of jeans just before our first date.” By the way, just as most men, he hated shopping.

I was impressed and charmed and got all fuzzy from the inside. For me it meant that he had taken our date seriously.

1. You Want Someone Who Invests in Dating as Much as You Do

The other day a girlfriend told me about her first date with a guy who had seemed to have high potential when they corresponded. They met for coffee, she offered to pay her share, he took the money and then they started to split the change awkwardly afterwards, counting the pennies. He was generous enough to give her a bigger share of the change back!

Oh dear, it was just a cup of coffee. He surely wouldn’t have gone bankrupt if he had just offered to pay. Needless to say, the date didn’t go very well.

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We ladies, have to spend as well, we spend on hair, make up, outfits, beautician, you name it; we spruce up seriously when we go out on a date. In the US dinner dates are a norm, even if they are first dates. Of course they don’t come cheap and there is an eternal debate whether the guy should foot the bill or whether the daters should go Dutch.

I guess we all have our own thoughts about this, although sometimes even the offer to pay from the guy’s part or the willingness to share the cost from the woman’s part can go a long way in warming each other’s hearts.

Dates are an expense we should all consider. The bottom line is that we should be prepared to budget for them, to do our dating in style.

2. But Should We Pay for The Service?

The best things in life are free…goes the Mastercard advert. But are they?

Free dating sites are very popular nowadays, thus attracting the serious daters along with the time wasters, or even worse people who are already in a relationship. The easy sign up and the semi anonymity are to blame.

When it’s all too easy, no wonder trust issues can appear right from the beginning. Maybe he’s a serial dater. Maybe she goes out partying every night. Who could tell? We know so little about the person in the beginning and the fact that they hopped onto the dating band wagon for a free ride, might not be their biggest plus. Even if we’re on it too!

3. How Are Paying Dating Sites Better?

When the world is inundated with free dating sites and dating apps, isn’t it a comforting thought that your date, just as yourself, has paid to meet you? Niche dating sites are on the rise and they are proof of higher expectations, for quality dates between people who are more compatible and are more committed to dating and to relationships.

Dating profile writing and dating image photography are also on the rise. This shows an expectation of higher quality profiles, with better photos and more engaging self-summaries becoming the norm. After all, we are perceived and chosen, if not on the basis of our photos and what we write about ourselves.

In the world of dating quality should always override quantity. We should think of ourselves as too valuable to leave things to chance, to sift through all the time wasters, date after date after date…

Paid dating related services, like dating web sites, matchmakers, dating coaches, dating photographers and profile writers can help us put our best foot forward and get a fair chance at meeting our much more valuable partner for life.

Make your dating worth it

Article by Laura Gub

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