6 Subtle Ways A Woman Can Chat With Her Crush

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Statistic Brain, an online database for life’s multiple facets, was able to assemble figures related to online dating, here are some of their most revealing data

• Of the total number of online dating users 47.6% are women
• The estimated duration of courtship for couples who started online is 18.5 months on average, which is 23.5 months shorter than folks who met face to face.
• First dates that originated online, people put more premium on personality 30%, with smile & looks only placing second at 23%.
• Contrary to popular belief, still more than a third of girls (38%) prefer nice/polite guys as opposed to bad/damaging ones at only 15%.

With society’s stereotypes that men should be initiators and main handlers of a relationship, most women prefer to wait-and-see for a guys first move. However, waiting for that cute or charming guy that’s long been in your friend list to message you can take an eternity. He may be too busy or have a mind-boggling number of friends, to notice you in the first place.

So, does that mean you should drop the hint? Yes, but don’t overdo it. Here are clever and non-desperate ways you can start the conversation:

#1 The Classic ‘Misclick’
This is an old-school excuse that works up to now. You simply have to pretend that your little sibling, nephew, or cousin accidentally hit that emoji or sticker to your male crush.

“Sorry! It was my 5-year-old cousin.”

“Apologies, my visiting nephew did that.”

Now, if the guy welcomingly accepts your apology with a friendly remark like, “Haha! It’s fine” then you can slowly take the conversation to a much personal level.

#2 The Planned Game Notification
After you played inviting games in Messenger like Everwing, Pac-Man, Hex, and Galaga, it will send a notification on the chat window of the person you decided to play it on. With your male crush as your target, you have to pretend again that you didn’t know about how the games work.

“Didn’t know that this disturbs someone. Sorry!”

If that message shifts the topic from high-scores to love scores, then you’ll know the risk you took in messaging him paid off.

#3 The “I Think I Saw You Somewhere” Statement
Girls, admit it, the majority of you have at least one guy friend on social media that you have never met once. Once you’ve seen him randomly on a bus ride or a mall visit, you see it as a topic to open in chat. Even if you don’t, the power of pretending again comes to play. Just don’t appear like you shadow his entire profile.

“Hey! You’re that guy in red in the mall entrance yesterday, right? I was about to greet you but I was afraid you won’t recognize me.”

A man is a curious being. The more you tickle his mind, the more he’ll think of you the majority of the time.

#4 The Interest Sparkler
Social media enables everyone to have a wide reach of information, particularly on good vacation and staycation places, OOTD ideas and mouthwatering dishes. You may have seen your crush post something about one of those, and whether you’re genuinely interested or not, you can use it to your advantage. Of the choices in this list, I believe this is the least informal and most effective way to engage with your crush, since it’s you showing interest on something he posted, not necessarily in him.

“Hi! I apologize if I’m bugging you, but I just want to know if the picture you posted yesterday was taken in the Maldives. My family and I had a hard time making reservations there, and I was wondering how you did it. Thanks”

 #5 The Damsel in Distress
The effectiveness of this technique has been impaired a little due to the large number of men and women using it, but it’s still a decent fallback option. Simply message your guy crush arbitrary letters like “asdasfasdasfas” and tell him, after he replied, that someone messed with your phone while you were away.

“Geez! My apologies, but someone other than me played with my phone.”

#6 The New Lady in The City
For instance, if you’re travelling for a business or personal meeting, why not ask your crush to guide you along the way (through chat), like what routes and train stations to take, especially if the place is near his area. This works two ways for you: you get to arrive in your destination, while ascertaining if your crush has a genuine heart for troubled people.

“Hello! This may appear very random, but I’m heading to a place in Salk Late City this weekend. Since you’re from Utah, I hope you can help me out on the best route to take. Thanks!”

Almost all gentlemen love to lend a helping hand, and if you’re lucky, your crush may even dig deeper by telling you some street-smarts or hidden knowledge about the place.

As a concluding thought, there’s a very good chance that your crush will like you so instead of waiting for him to unravel your great personality, why not take a chance on initiating that first casual message now?

Article by Jacob Silva

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